Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Just a bit of this and that

There really hasn't been too much going on here lately.  My dad and Princess Bear (PB) were both sick from Friday morning through the weekend.  They had some stomach bug.  It wasn't too awful but PBs GI system isn't recovered completely from the illeus so she wasn't a happy camper.  It was interesting to see how much sleep can happen when there is no one around pushing an agenda.

On Saturday my mom decided she wanted to go for a mini road trip.  She just wanted to get out and shop.  At first her plan was to go to Galesburg which is about 45 minutes from here.  She decided that she didn't want to go that far just in case my dad or daughter got sicker or needed something.  I get the reasoning but I must say I was bummed.  I love going to Galesburg and haven't done it in a very long time.  Seminary street has some amazing shopping.  Instead we went to Washington to just putz around in the shops around the town square.  It was nice and we spent several hours being bums.  I'm not sure if would have stayed away that long but PB threw an unholy fit about me leaving her.  Whenever she does that it just makes me inclined to stay out a bit longer.

Sunday I woke up for the 2nd time in 3 days with a bad headache.  I made it through church.  I then came home and took some meds and laid down for awhile.  I was praying it wouldn't go into a full blown migraine.  It was bad enough as it was but I got lucky- thank G-d!  Then my mom wanted to go back to Washington.  Her favorite Mom & Pop grocery store is there and we'd run out of a few things.  My mom is one of those people that doesn't do sick well.   It's just not her personality.  The only person she even tries for is my daughter.  When my sister and I got sick when we were little we'd call for my dad.  He was the one to change sheets if we got sick or bring us 7up if our stomach hurt.  So I think 2 days of my dad and PB sick was enough to make her want to run away....repeatedly!

There was a downside to running away.  Ever since our vacation to Florida I've been saying something was wrong with my foot and ankle.  My dad said it was swollen so I had a Dr's appointment for this past Monday.  Well after walking around for quite awhile on Saturday not only did my foot and ankle hurt but everything clear up to my hip did and my knee was way swollen.  Several years ago I twisted the same ankle big time.  As in the Dr told me I would have been better off breaking it.  Instead I did a lot of tissue damage and some of it in spite of a lot of PT was never quite ok.   This picture was taken 4 or 5 days after the initial injury several years ago.  That means some of the swelling had already gone down.



Looked awesome, huh?  


 It seems as though I've done a good job re injuring it.   The Dr ordered Xrays just to make sure there wasn't a hairline fracture.  I start PT again in 3 weeks.  Why in 3 weeks?  The Dr. wants me to have it wrapped and elevated just to see if that helps.  Dude- she has kids too so doesn't she get that there is no real rest or elevation happening?  She did say that last time the ortho wanted to operate to see if that would help some of the muscles and tendons that had been stretched and twisted and did I want to consider surgery now.  Um, let me think about that for a sec.  Nope!  I think we'll try PT for a few months along with some lovely little drugs to take at the end of the day.  I'm not a big surgery person.

On the whole hospital/hospitalist fiasco it's literally becoming a game of who can pass the buck.  The hospitalist still insists that he saw PB on the first day of her hospitalization.  Funny how I was with her unless I had to go to the bathroom which only happened twice and my daughter has no recollection of him coming into her room.  I finally called his boss whom I've known for several years and said that he was flat out lying.  I did have a great conversation with her and we've come up with a plan so I never have to deal with this Dr. again for any other hospitalizations that PB may have in the future.  That's definitely good news for PB but not any other kids and families that have to deal with this jack wagon.  I'm not entirely done fighting this.  I just don't know how much further up the flag pole I can fly this. 

Oh, something very exciting, to me, almost happened yesterday.  I was listening to the Glenn Beck show on the radio.  I adore Glenn Beck.  They were discussing the Chris Kyle movie (which I see a post on in this blogs near future).   I called in and was actually on hold to talk with him.  I was SOOOOOOOO excited.  Total case of  idol worship going on.  After being on hold for over 20 minutes I had to hang up because of my Dr's appointment.  How disappointing! 

So that's the news and excitement in this neck of the woods.  Hope things are good with you!

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Life plods along

I've been working on getting all my ducks in a row so I can respond to the people that did the inquiry on the Dr. I filed the complaint about.  Fun and games.  I did get a copy of Princess Bears (PB) records for the hospital stay.   Nowhere in the report did I see anything saying that anyone but a resident saw her the 1st day she was admitted.  That's a good sign for me to keep fighting this.

Her Dr's office and I are still trying to deal with the GI problems that PB is having from the ileus.  She'll be fine and dandy for a few days and then just have a horrid stomach ache.  It kills me to see my baby in so much pain.  The patient case manager at her pediatricians office is trying to get her into a new GI Dr.  I think I also need to see her pediatrician.  In looking at her records from the hospital stay there are several tests that were either high or low.  I don't want to borrow trouble but I don't want something to fall through the cracks either. 

In our school district every three years in addition to an IEP a big formal round of tests are done to see how every child receiving special education services is doing.  The first few times the kids are little.  3, 6 and 9 years old.  This year PB is going to be 12 and it gets a bit more dicey. Do I want them to still work on an academic approach or start focusing on life skills.  The next one at 15 PB will be the first time that PB has say in what is going on.  Part of this every three years battery of tests is meeting with the Social Worker from the District that is assigned to PB.  Last time the woman and I butted heads.   She didn't like one of the requests I made.  Every year I will grant them permission to do whatever testing they need included standardized IQ testing.  Then I make them crazy by not letting them include her IQ score in any of the paper work.  It's not that I don't want to face the facts.  By all means of testing my daughter is developmentally delayed and I know it.  My problem is that I still want her teachers to push her.  I don't want them to make her miserable but I do want her limits tested.  She can't grow if she isn't pushed.  SO, I don't want any teacher to get a preconceived idea of what PB is capable of based on a test score.  I want it do be determined by the work they do with her.  It really pissed off the social worker last time.  This time she was much better about it since she does see where I'm coming from.  I went into this meeting very unsure of how things would go.  Turns out I was worried for nothing.  She was really wonderful about everything and also gave me a lot of information about local resources I didn't know about.  She had information about  an upcoming 4H event where the kids get to participate in 4 different classes for $10.  There are 32 classes to pick from.  PB picked crochet, dog care and grooming, cupcake decorating and how to build a birdhouse.  Can't beat that for $10!

I was super stoked about the announcement of Luke Bryan's upcoming tour.  If he'd play a stadium show in Chicago PB would have been over the moon since Florida Georgia Line are playing the stadium dates.  Alas, no stadium tour in Chi town.   I did try to convince my mom that we could turn PBs birthday into a Nashville weekend and in addition to the concert go to the Louisville Zoo and the Louisville Slugger museum.  Only problem is by June and July Nashville can be pretty darn hot and why risk all that money only to have a chance that PB could overheat?  That also took the St. Louis concerts out of the running.  Then I saw that he's playing 2 shows at the United Center in Chicago.  I love the United Center.  They serve super yummy Bob Chinns Mai Tais there.  Well, they used to.  I've been to Bulls games at the United Center when Michael Jordan was still playing.  I've been to some awesome concerts like U2 at the United Center.  Fun times.  So, I started looking at the Chicago dates and rolling it around in my head whether my child missing 1.5 days of school for a concert was something I could justify.  Then a wonderful idea struck.  PB is supposed to do her yearly trip to Shriners in September.  Bet I could just nicely ask if she could do it the end of October and bam!  Excused absences from school!!!!  So tomorrow I'm going to be calling Shriners and hoping like all get out that I can schedule her visit then! 

So that's pretty much the story here.  I was considering covering the SotU address but really how many times and ways can I say that Barak Obama is a complete idiot before its just redundant?  Then there's the whole deflategate deal.  That one really pisses me off.  I was really hoping for a Seattle vs Indianapolis Super Bowl.  Mostly because I really hate the Packers and I'm no big fan of the Pats.  I think Belichick is a complete a$$hat that needs to be banned from coaching and Tom Brady needs to take a long walk off a short pier.  After some thought though I decided not to broach the Deflategate fiasco! :)  (ok not in depth!).

Friday, January 16, 2015

When did I become a Crusader?

It seems as though more and more I spend time fighting for something that is right just because it's right.  Not that it will have much bearing for me but just because it is something that needs to be done.  I suppose in some ways my parents formed my sister and I to do exactly this.  Stand up for those who can't or don't.  Question authority if things don't seem to be adding up.  I guess that's what happens when 2 hippies have kids!  I remember being little sitting at this kid sized table my parents and writing a letter to President Jimmy Carter encouraging him to do more to help get the hostages from the Iranian Hostage situation home.  I was 6 y'all.  That's the kind of stuff my parents thought was important and encouraged.  All through grade school every time we had parent teacher conferences my teachers would always comment that I questioned them often.  My parents had no problem with this as long as I did it respectfully and since getting sent to the Principals office wasn't fun you can be sure I was respectful as all get out while still questioning what was what.  When I was in 8th grade I really rocked the boat.  My sister was playing on the schools volleyball team.  The team had made it to sectionals but didn't play all the players.  Just the good ones.  That was against school rules.  The coaches just hoped that no one would connect those dots or rat them out.  Yeah, I don't think so.  Oh before I go any further here my sister was not one of those kids that was benched but 2 of her friends were.  I said something to the coaches and they disregarded me.  I said something to the principal.  She disregarded me.   Yeah ok.  You can try to ignore me but I'm not going to go away.  As it turned out I wrote a letter to the Bishop breaking down what had happened.  That really got people's panties in a bunch.  My parents backed me up.  Better yet the girls benched were apologized to and it didn't happen again.  I would have loved it if they hadn't let those parents coach any longer but you can't win them all!

So what is all this back story about?  Remember the total POS hospitalist that did nothing as far as treatment or following the orders from the admitting Dr. from when Princess Bear (PB) was in the hospital?  Well I got the follow up letter from the inquiry.  Long story short they are saying that this Dr. didn't do anything wrong.  No where things got really interesting is that it says the Dr. saw PB on the day she was admitted.  That is a bald faced lie.  So after talking to the patient manager PB has had at her pediatricians office since birth the wheels are being set in motion for me to pursue this further.  Do not lie and say you saw my child.  Do not lie and say my daughters admission orders were different than they were.  I'm going to call you on your bullshit.  So I have the office notes from the Dr's visit that led to her hospitalization.  Monday I'm going to the hospital to get a copy of her records from that hospitalization.  The patient manager pointed out that if I want to pursue this for legal reasons I didn't have much of a leg to stand on.  After assuring her that I wasn't in it looking for a payout but rather to make sure PB and any of the other kids in the practice that might have to deal with this hospitalist deserve more she completely encouraged me to run this further up the flag pole.  It's not just about my daughter.  G-d willing and the creek don't rise she won't have another hospitalization  (ok so I might not bet the ranch on that but I'm going for positive) but there are a lot of kids that get sent to the hospital by the pediatric group we use that deserve a hell of a lot more than this clown Dr. is giving them!

I'm also embroiled in a similar situation with our local school district.  I'm not going to say too much about it at this point in time just because it's a very volatile situation and I am trying to keep my head covered while still stirring the pot.  Hard yes but not impossible. 

So that is the story here.  Never thought that advocate would be a frequently worn hat but it's happening more and more often.  Guess I'll just roll with it!

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

This country is toast folks!!!

OK, I know the gun debate will rage on for all time.  Personally, I think everyone should have the choice to carry a gun as long as they know how to use said gun.  That means spending some time on a range practicing.  That doesn't mean buying it out of some pawn shop, taking it home and hoping for the best.  I could go off on this gun thing all night but I'm going to narrow it down just a little bit so we can have some fun with it.

Have you heard about this school in Alabama that wants every child to bring an 8oz can of food to school?  Why bring a can of food to school you might ask.  Is it for a food drive for the less fortunate?  No.  Is it to help stock the local soup kitchen?  No.  It's to help thwart a potential gunman!  Yes I'm dead serious.  You can find an article about it HERE.    I'll give you a minute to head over there and read the article.  After you've stopped laughing and shaking you're head c'mon back here and join me, ok?

It's educators that think like this that truly scare me.  That principal is serious has a freaking heart attack.  She's a principal.  I'm guessing that even in Alabama that means she has a masters degree.  If not a Bachelors with a lot of work experience.  And yes I just made fun of Alabama.  Sorry.  I used to live in Alabama..it has some great aspects to it.  Then you have something like this.

Now let's talk about what happens after you've sent little Timmy off to school with his can of chicken n stars soup and little Susie with her can of spaghetti Os.  The principal at this school thinks that storing their little 8oz can of food in their desk is going to empower them.  Really?????  Really?????  Oh and lets not forget to make sure its a can of food that needs a can opener to open it.  You wouldn't want little Timmy or Susie to get a case of the mid morning munchies and open that bad boy up!  No siree!  That could open whole other can of problems! Oh and let's hope that none of these kiddos go rogue and take justice into their own hands. You know little Mikey tagged little Ashley too hard in gym class (the one day a week that they have gym) and when they get back to the room little Ashley fires her can of peaches in heavy syrup at little Mikey. Then you'll have the food police sending a note home to little Ashley's mom about how unhealthy heavy syrup is. Hell....DCFS might even get involved. Heavy syrup is child abuse to be sure!

Now I'll be the first to admit that this sign is much more in line with what I'd like to see happening in schools:


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Really. Let any potential gunman stop for a second and decide how lucky they feel that day. Completely works for me. Now I know most schools don't have the cojones to stand behind a policy like this. Instead we now have schools that are on lock down and kids have to have drills on what to do if a potential gunman does enter the building. If you live in Alabama that means little Timmy is going to be beaming a can of chicken n stars at the gunman. Now color me crazy but to you really think provoking said gunman by beaming them on the head with a can of soup is a really good idea? Yeah- not so much!

Friday, January 9, 2015

Pas Peur

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I pondered whether I wanted to address the massacre at Charlie Hebdo.  Yes.  Yes I do.  It's time to not be afraid and it's time to stop trying to say that Muslims are practicing a peaceful religion.  What really did it for me though was the hostage situation that unfolded in Paris at the Kosher grocery store.  On a Friday.  This was deliberate and as evil as it gets.  For those who haven't connected the dots on this one Fridays are always the busiest at Kosher grocery stores.  The people are there to buy the foods they need for Shabbat. 

Yes I take this personally.  As I've mentioned before although I was raised Catholic my mother is Jewish and to many peoples way of thinking I am Jewish as is my daughter.  It absolutely breaks my heart that my daughter at my mothers insistence doesn't know my mom is Jewish.  She figures that Princess Bear (PB) has enough issues to deal with because of her physical and mental disabilities she doesn't want to "add another to her plate."  How fucking wrong is that?  Not only does PB not know her grandmother is Jewish but somehow in the effort to not share this part of her heritage with PB my parents have taken so far that PB began to think there was something wrong with Judaism.  PB and I were looking at holiday manicures on Pinterest.  She was giving everything a thumbs up or thumbs down rating.  We ran across a Hanukkah manicure and PB reacted very negatively.  I instantly about blew a gasket but caught myself.  I asked her why she thought that.  She replied that her Boaby thought Hanukkah was bad.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  She also doesn't know how much her grandmothers faith touches her life without her having any real knowledge of it.  Even the name she calls her grandmother is what Jewish children call their grandmothers (although most spell it Bubbe).  We did have a talk with PB and let her know that Judaism is a wonderful religion and Hanukkah is a fun holiday.  On the one hand I hate that my mom wants to hide this from PB but on the other hand I can understand why she feels that way.  Growing up I always wore 2 necklaces.  One had 2 pendants on it.  An S and a Celtic Cross.  The other had a chai which is the Hebrew symbol for life.  From the time I started wearing the chai my mom started schooling me on how to handle it.  Ever on an airplane in a hostage situation.  Rip it off and hide it in the seat.  When we were on our way to Huntsville for a summer job I had we were near Memphis around 1am.  I looked over at the truck next to me.  There were 3 people in KKK robes.  Without a word my mom held out her hand.  I knew what she wanted.  She took my chai and gave it back to me when I came home at the end of the summer.  Can I tell you how crazy it is that we're living in a world were this is a concern?  Where my daughter can't safely be told all about her heritage?  There is something wrong with all of this.

Now if the folks at Charlie Hebdo were just drawing anti Muslim cartoons there might (might) be some room to say that they were doing something wrong.  That wasn't the case.  The fact that the gunmen were yelling "We have avenged the Prophet Muhammad" and "God is Great" in Arabic ("Allahu Akbar") is just more reason to question why if Islam is such a religion of peace that Muslims all over the world are not decrying these situations.

2 night ago I read about Richard Dawkins response to the terror attack.  Now just so you know right off the bat I pretty much think that Richard Dawkins is a complete asshat and a waste of valuable oxygen.  Before you start questioning why I think this I'll just answer it for you.  It doesn't make a damn bit of difference to me that he's an atheist.  That's his concern or problem.  However you want to look at it.  I firmly believe that everyone needs to have faith in something higher than themselves.  There will come a time that you need to have faith in something and if you don't have that light at the end of the tunnel I feel sorry for you but I won't dislike you for it.  Now what he has said about Down Syndrome children and the fact that he things that every woman carrying a Down Syndrome child should have an abortion pretty much makes him a despicable human being in my book.  SO, it really grates on me when someone that I pretty much so have zero respect comes out with such great responses that I can agree with.  The following were taking from a Blaze article you can find HERE.    Here's the short version:

Richard Dawkins         @RichardDawkins
They shouted “We have avenged the Prophet Muhammad.” http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-30710883  Some useful idiot will claim it had nothing to do with religion.
Richard Dawkins         @RichardDawkins
No, all religions are NOT equally violent. Some have never been violent, some gave it up centuries ago. One religion conspicuously didn’t.

A mish mash

Ok...not really sure were this post is going.  I've had entirely TOO much caffeine and I'm loose at the keyboard at 1:35am.  Much safer than other options but still leaves plenty of room for trouble!

First of all how about some yummy-ness?  My dad's cousin was sharing this link on Facebook earlier.  In my opinion there is no better taste combination than peanut butter and chocolate!  Many of these recipes have that exact combo.  In other words they'll work better than a Hershey bar dipped in Jif with a side of salt lick if you're particularly PMSy.  Check it out HERE.

OK next up.  Let's talk about that the fact that no one is entitled to their own opinion in Hollywood.  And I for one and damn sick of it.  What's bringing this little rant about?  Last night Princess Bear and I were watching the Peoples Choice Awards.  Did you see it?  If so did you hear Kaley Cuoco-Sweetings joke about her apology tour?  I absolutely love that she poked fun at it but wish it wasn't necessary due to BS backlash.  If you're not sure what I'm referring to it all started with a Redbook interview that Kaley did.  It asked her if she was a feminist.  This is her response:

Cuoco answered “Is it bad if I say no?” and continued: “Things are different now, and I know a lot of the work that paved the way for women happened before I was around… I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality.” And: “I cook for [my husband] Ryan five nights a week: It makes me feel like a housewife; I love that. I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I like the idea of women taking care of their men.”

Apparently this is a HUGE sin.  It's not ok to not be a feminist y'all.  We're all supposed to be out there raging against men and railing for womens rights at all times.  Anything else is unacceptable.

What complete, total and utter bullshit is that?  Why isn't it ok to say "What makes me happy is being a homemaker and mother?" Why can't women find fulfillment in the home and not be ridiculed for that?  If it is their choice then why isn't that ok?

If you can't tell I find this horribly offensive.  It's kind of like when people had a huge piss fit because Legos came out with Lego Friends as a way to entice more girls to play with Legos.  Yes the Legos are in a more "girly" color format and have things like horses.  Why is this bad?  My daughter loves playing with her Legos.  Am I really supposed to get upset that hers are pink, purple and light blue instead of navy, red and black?  If I am I guess I've failed her on that front.  I'm just glad that she's playing with something that doesn't have a screen and makes noise.  I'm freaking ecstatic if she gets all those little fu$#ers picked up!

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Seriously!  There is no pain like stepping on a freaking lego barefoot!  If you're a mom you know this!  You also know that the things multiply like Gremlins when you aren't looking!

Also before you get all upset with me I'm equally offended when women don't get paid an equal amount for doing the same work.  I'm upset when women receive backlash for entering into what is perceived as a "mans job".  Its all bullshit all the way around.  I just don't think it's acceptable when people have an issue with women staying home, raising their kids and taking on the more traditional role of a homemaker.  Whatever floats your boat should be enough....without having to explain or justify. 

I just have to say that I'm not happy about a world in which it isn't ok to make your family and home your main focus if that's what you hold important.  It's a bit like being PC.  It's gone way to far and the pendulum needs to swing back!  I wonder how many working mothers are working mothers because they find real fulfillment in it?  I wonder how many working mothers would quit their jobs if the lose of their income would not throw their family into economic peril?  Just pondering a few points.

 I could go on but I'm sure I've pissed off a few people by this point.  I'd say I'm sorry but I'm really not.  Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn if my post has your panties in a bunch!  Let's just agree to disagree from the onset, ok?


Wednesday, January 7, 2015

I freaking LOVE our snowblower!!!

Seriously!  My dad bought a new one two winters ago perhaps.  I dubbed this thing the Beast immediately.  It makes quick work out of clearing the driveway.  Frankly it took more time to back out the car, get it out from under its tarp, fill it with gas, start it and put the car back than it did to clear the driveway.  Now I always had a bit of a problem with my carpal tunnel and the Beast.  This was the first time I used it since I broke my hand.  About 1/2 way through the driveway I had to take a 30 second rest to shake out my arm.  I was also so thrilled to be out of the house and enjoying the outside that I went over to my neighbors and cleared off 2/3 of her driveway (she always parks in the middle so I saw no need to do the whole thing) and her front walkway.  After that my dad came looking for me.  Who knows how many other peoples driveways I would have done?  It definitely helped my cabin fever!  Good thing too because we're going to be housebound tomorrow.  The high for tomorrow with the wind chill factored in is estimated to be -25*.   The local school districts have all cancelled school for tomorrow.  My only plans for going outside will be a quick trip to feed the birds. 

Princess Bear (PB) had another good day.  She's tolerating food better.  She wanted to know if we could go out to breakfast.  Ummm...no!  She's really craving chocolate chip pancakes and bacon.  Who can blame her?  Unfortunately even if it wasn't going to be OMG cold her system isn't ready for that kind of food yet.  I did promise to make some plain pancakes.  It was a compromise she was eventually ready to make.

I spent a good portion of this evening texting with Mason.  I do love it when the man tries to appease me!  I asked him what his daughter received from her long distance beau for Christmas.  It lead to this whole "conversation".  I thought the young man was rather boring in his gift choices.  Mace then tried telling me that I was too high maintenance.  After awhile he came around to my way of thinking.  Good Mace!  Biscuit! :)    While I completely can sympathize with having very little money to spend on gifts I think with some thought and planning its very possible to get a gift that can be very personal.  What do you think?